Checkpoint

“When we compare, deep down, we’re checking in with ourselves”

When we compare our body, or status, or our lifestyle to others who appear to have what we don’t, deep down, we're checking in with ourselves and asking "Am I good enough, for ME?" but sadly, the tone that it usually comes with is one of cynicism, shame, and when darkness is overlayed - envy. So the question then gets asked in the negative: "Why am I NOT good enough for me?”, then eventually when the darkness sets in, it unconsciously turns into “Who do THEY think they are?” and then it's no longer really a question. It's simply a put down. Of you AND of them. Because it’s beneath you, and your judgement is not their problem. By that point it’s simply an incorrect assumption that not only is something lacking, but that what we want is not available to us because someone else has it.

“So we swiftly jump from a simple, intuitive and healthy checkpoint, to an external judgement of others and a frustration of how THEY don’t deserve what WE feel we should have.”

WHAT you choose to compare, the SPEED at which you spiral into the negative, and what IMPACT that has on your behaviours and decisions afterwards, is dependent on a lot of factors.

That’s where Quiet Confidence comes in. Quiet Confidence is a personalised coaching opportunity that explores what factors are at play, why, how they came to stick, what elements of your current lifestyle are fuelling and embedding the barriers to change, and what we can do about that in order to establish and re-align your behaviours to the values and principles you authentically want to live by.

So, ask yourself again: When you make snap comparisons to others, what part of you do you compare first, and why?